As part of my 101 in 1001, I chose to complete the “50 Questions That Will Free Your Mind” which sounds a little daunting… especially when you see the list! These aren’t easy-to-answer quick questions. So I’m going to start the Post and list all of the questions and come back to answer them periodically. Slowly but surely I’ll get them done and free my mind. Sounds nice!
Here is the original post from Marc & Angel Hack Life.
How old would you be if you didn’t know how old you are?
I think I’d be limitless. As in, it may be easier to do things you’re interested in because you’re not thinking… “dang, I’m almost 30 and I don’t have a house or a new car or kids” which are the standards. Although now those standards are shifting a lot. But I think age is just something that puts unnecessary bounds on us sometimes. Although I have never let my age bother me, I do find myself making goals for my life based on age instead of based on need or want. So I think I would probably be younger/older based on the scenario and who I was surrounded by at the time.
Which is worse, failing or never trying?
I’m really bad at this…. I hate failing. In my head I believe that never trying is worse. Truly I do. But in reality I’m guilty of never trying. There are so many things I would love to do and try in this world. I just don’t. I’m not sure if it’s fear of failing, or fear or leaving things behind or what. I’d like to move more towards the failing more instead of the failing to try.
If life is so short, why do we do so many things we don’t like and like so many things we don’t do?
Responsibility. Usually if I’m not doing something that I’d really like to be it’s because perhaps people I really care about think I should be doing something else. Like traveling the world versus securing a really good job. Although traveling the world would be amazing, I have this almost obligation to myself to get a job instead because “that’s what people do” and how you prepare for the future. I think that it’s important though to find a balance. It’s not wrong to do things you love. And finding ways to make them part of your everyday life is important. Otherwise, what’s the point of saving for the future?
When it’s all said and done, will you have said more than you’ve done?
Hopefully not, but potentially. It’s easy to talk about doing things. It takes commitment and resources to actually do them. I think this 101 in 1001 list is helping with this though because I’m actually taking the time to sit down and think about things I’d like to accomplish. I’m also working towards creating my own small side business, and that’s something!
What is the one thing you’d most like to change about the world?
Compassion. We’ll never all agree. But I’m sad to see that those differences make people so hateful nowadays. I miss the days of walking down the street and people waving at you. Now they wonder why you’re staring at them and quickly turn away. Having a little more compassion and understanding in your interactions would go a long way I think.
If happiness was the national currency, what kind of work would make you rich?
Work. Define work. Because anytime people have asked me what I want in life it’s typically been to have a loving, supportive family to care for. Whether that be myself, or a husband, or children. Or my fuzzbutt pup! I really enjoy CrossFit coaching… but if I was getting paid in happiness, my job would probably be something creative like this new found calligraphy hobby. I could take the time to actually practice and learn and grow! Plus, if happiness was the currency, I wouldn’t struggle to budget. I have plenty to be happy about as it is!
Are you doing what you believe in, or are you settling for what you are doing?
Both. I’m settling for doing what I currently am because I believe it will lead me to doing what I believe in.
If the average human life span was 40 years, how would you live your life differently?
Oof. That would mean I only have about 13 years left. That’s not a long time. I’d be over half done with my life already. That’s a scary thought… I guess that would mean that I would live quite differently. More adventurous for sure. I might have to suck it up and do something I don’t like for a while to earn some money, but then so much adventure would be had. I think I would try to do more with my time. I love just being lazy and relaxing… but you can relax while still being productive. I would strive to be much better at that!
To what degree have you actually controlled the course your life has taken?
Although it’s hard to admit, not very much. I tend to weigh heavily the thoughts and opinions of others, of those I care for. I have made big decisions in my life simply for not wanting to upset someone else. Not saying it’s smart, and that’s part of the reason for doing this list and this 101 in 1001 activity. I want to discover things that are truly me. I know I’m me, but I have a lot of others’ influence mixed in. I’ve written before about wanting to find a passion, or as Andy Stanley says, something that breaks my heart. I feel like that would help me significantly.
Are you more worried about doing things right, or doing the right things?
Oh geez. Overwhelmingly both. I would much rather do the right things… but when I do them I might as well do them right! Otherwise, why bother! I’m a perfectionist/extreme organizationalist (I don’t think that’s a word? it is now) and I like things just so.
You’re having lunch with three people you respect and admire. They all start criticizing a close friend of yours, not knowing she is your friend. The criticism is distasteful and unjustified. What do you do?
If you could offer a newborn child only one piece of advice, what would it be?
Would you break the law to save a loved one?
Absolutely. UNLESS That loved one did something wrong to start with. I’m not going to break the law to hide a loved one that just murdered someone in cold-blood. (that seems drastic) But if it’s a matter of breaking the law for an innocent loved one I would not hesitate.
Have you ever seen insanity where you later saw creativity?
What’s something you know you do differently than most people?
How come the things that make you happy don’t make everyone happy?
What one thing have you not done that you really want to do? What’s holding you back?
Are you holding onto something you need to let go of?
Definitely. I have an incredible memory. Which is a blessing, until it’s not. That incredible memory leaves me thinking about hard/hurtful/sad/bad/ugly times way too much. I need to do better at dealing with those things in the moment instead of compartmentalizing things and sweeping them under the rug.
If you had to move to a state or country besides the one you currently live in, where would you move and why?
Australia. I’m not sure if that’s just because I really want to go there though? A trip might suffice. I love living in the South. Born & Raised Southern, and I hate the idea of leaving. And yet, I’m really drawn to like Colorado/Wyoming type places. I’m not even sure why since I’ve never been there. Really I need to travel more (that’s a recurring theme) and fall in love with a place that’s all my own.
Do you push the elevator button more than once? Do you really believe it makes the elevator faster?
Haha, I don’t! Especially after listening to a Podcast on Buttons where they actually had an elevator expert on for an interview who said that pressing the door close button repeatedly actually screws up the internal programming/scheduling and may slow it down! Funny how that works!
Would you rather be a worried genius or a joyful simpleton?
Why are you, you?
Have you been the kind of friend you want as a friend?
Which is worse, when a good friend moves away, or losing touch with a good friend who lives right near you?
What are you most grateful for?
Would you rather lose all of your old memories, or never be able to make new ones?
I think I’d rather lose all my old memories… if I have the ability to make new ones, then someone I’m close with could tell me about all my old ones. So then I could at least remember things going forward. Plus, hopefully I still have more of my life left to live than I already have lived.
Is it possible to know the truth without challenging it first?
Has your greatest fear ever come true?
Do you remember that time 5 years ago when you were extremely upset? Does it really matter now?
Haha. Well, yes and no. I think it only matters because it has shaped some things that have happened since then. The actual event that caused me to be upset? Not really. But how I reacted, and it was handled and how the other people involved reacted and handled it, yes. I think it’s been influential in things that have happened since. Good or bad.
What is your happiest childhood memory? What makes it so special?
At what time in your recent past have you felt most passionate and alive?
If not now, then when?
Probably doing all of the farm calls when I worked at Commonwealth Veterinary Clinic in Virginia. It was awesome to go out to various people’s homes to see their operations and care for their animals. Most people just know the world of dogs and cats as pets, I have my own, but going to these farms was a totally different mindset. It was their livelihood. Dairy farms lose money if their cows are sick. I’m not sure I’ve ever had a better time learning.
If you haven’t achieved it yet, what do you have to lose?
Have you ever been with someone, said nothing, and walked away feeling like you just had the best conversation ever?
Why do religions that support love cause so many wars?
Passion is a difficult thing to control. It gets skewed from a loving passion to an obsessive passion. Obsessive passions clouds people’s ability to be open-minded and compassionate.
Is it possible to know, without a doubt, what is good and what is evil?
If you just won a million dollars, would you quit your job?
Absolutely. I would put a bunch away in savings and then travel the US.
Would you rather have less work to do, or more work you actually enjoy doing?
I’d rather have more work I actually enjoy doing. Enjoying your work is important and makes it seem less like work. I’ve recently been in a situation where I didn’t have a lot of work, and I wasn’t enjoying it. It is really hard to be motivated or feel happy in what you’re doing that way.
Do you feel like you’ve lived this day a hundred times before?
When was the last time you marched into the dark with only the soft glow of an idea you strongly believed in?
If you knew that everyone you know was going to die tomorrow, who would you visit today?
Um, what? How depressing. I think I would call an emergency meeting of everyone and have them all in the same place for some delicious food and maybe some s’mores over a campfire? Okay, but really. Only one person? I feel like if EVERYONE I know is going to die (they are all spread out over the world) then there must be some huge natural disaster coming and I’m going to be dead too. In that case, I’ll play with my dog and call everyone to tell them I love them and I’ll see them in Heaven!
Would you be willing to reduce your life expectancy by 10 years to become extremely attractive or famous?
No, definitely not. I could use that 10 years to do so much more exciting stuff than being famous. Plus, I feel like being famous would take another 10 years off my life expectancy from paparazzi and all the negative things people seem to have to say about famous people. Being extremely attractive would be nice… but I’d rather be known for who I am than what I look like.
What is the difference between being alive and truly living?
When is it time to stop calculating risk and rewards, and just go ahead and do what you know is right?
If we learn from our mistakes, why are we always so afraid to make a mistake?
Mistakes can be very painful. It’s never fun to willingly walk into something that’s gonna hurt. Or possibly hurt. Although if we did it more often we may get used to it in a sense and it not have so much impact anymore. Like, we’d be able to better understand that making the mistake isn’t so difficult, and know how to respond in a more beneficial manner. It’s often times the responses we get from making the mistake that hurts more than the action itself. Makes me want to be nicer to people who do make mistakes that involve me…. wouldn’t I want someone to be understanding with me?
What would you do differently if you knew nobody would judge you?
Sing and dance and wear hats and move around and eat out a lot and then not at all and post tons of pictures of my dog and food and do juice cleanses and take art classes. Oh wait…. the majority of these things are on my 101 in 1001 list 🙂 Time to get busy not caring what other people think (unless it’s really important).
When was the last time you noticed the sound of your own breathing?
Yoga class!! I’m trying really hard to get better at this. I don’t know if you know this… but breathing is really good for you! And longer, deeper breaths are even better than the normally quick, short shallow breathing we’ve all grown accustomed to. Stop and really breathe. It’s amazing how good your mind will feel with all that extra oxygen!